Ultimately, the Four Children/donors is an all-inclusive trope: I’m in; I’m out; I haven’t thought about that question. In fact, I didn’t even know one could ask questions.
- Steven Steinberg, in Personalized Philanthropy and the 4 Donors (part 6)

Dear Reader,

If you enjoy(ed) the series on the 4 donors, or even if you haven't, please let me know your thoughts about it at Smeyers863@gmail.com. The opening note points out that at first blush the 4 donors might be confusing, because it attempts to solve a problem that many people (donors, gift officers, advisors) don't know they have. How (donors) can we arrange our gifts in such a way that our recognition and impact can begin now? Does it really have to be deferred or denied during our lifetime? Is it wrong or even wicked of us to seek this gratification in our lifetime. Basically, are you "in" or "out"? In fact, we didn't even know we could ask that question or even any questions at all. It seems to me in an important sense we are, each one of us, a donor "who does not know who to ask." How can philanthropy help lead us beyond the hierarchy of just ourselves, however enlightened, to thinking and consideration of the wider community beyond ourselves. Please share your thoughts on the series and on the dilemma it attempts to confront.

With greatest appreciation,

Steven L Meyers, Ph.D.